Have you ever thought about how the feelings of those around you, both known and unknown, affect you?

As we learn to tune into and understand our own feelings we also need to be aware of the feelings of those around us. Everything is energy; we are human receptors, constantly giving and receiving energy in any given moment. Have you noticed how upset you are after an argument, whether with a loved one or a work colleague?

I used to work for a film director who was renowned for treating his staff in the most appalling ways. He particularly used to love shouting at people. I’m still closely associated with a few of my colleagues from those days and when we reminisce, we often talk about how it made us feel. Just listening to him yelling at someone else used to make my stomach churn, it used to make me feel sick, and if I’m totally honest, a tad grateful that I wasn’t on the receiving end.

We are living in turbulent times and events in the outside world have a ripple effect on what is going on for us just as much as what’s happening in our inner world. We need to learn how to manage our own energy, to ground and to centre, so that we are not so easily knocked off-balance and it is so important to take time in nature, to meditate, to listen to music or whatever it is that helps you to keep yourself stable and calm. Practices such as these can restore the feeling that everything is okay, lift your spirits and open you into the energy of joy.

The Effects of the Energy of Fear

News from both home and abroad can be extremely hard to digest. We are constantly being bombarded by information via the television, the radio, newspapers and social media, to name but a few sources. There is genuine news and fake news aplenty, and it is not always easy to discern which is which. With news of ongoing wars, the financial crisis and the general political situation around the world connecting us to the energy of fear, we naturally feel unsettled as we worry about how things will unfold and the effect it will have.

The information and the energy that we receive from the outside world is often driven by fear. When we make decisions from a place of fear, we do it with the belief that we are protecting ourselves, but this is generally misguided. Fear is very discombobulating: when we’re in a state of fear, we energetically jump out of our physical body and we become disassociated. In turn, when we are disassociated, it is harder to solve the everyday problems that we experience. We get into a cycle of feeling the need to fix things versus being able to make positive decisions and being able to create new positive situations and experiences.

I remember during the Covid-19 pandemic, I was working with one of my clients who was struggling with the simple task of grocery shopping as no one looked at anyone else and there was no conversation – just the constant bombardment of the overwhelming energy of fear. It manifested in panic attacks that were debilitating for my client. I totally understand that the pandemic was a very different situation to anything we had experienced previously but we can learn from it, all the same.

Making Conscious Choices

My guidance is to switch off the news and reduce your time on social media when you can feel those outside energies of fear creeping in. I’m not suggesting that you become uninformed, but rather to choose where you access your information from and regulate how and when you tune into that source of information. It’s important that you use discernment as to what you choose and don’t choose to tune into. Consciously choose not to allow the energy of fear to disrupt your energy field.

Energetic Connections and Exchanges With Others

We are energetically connected to everyone on the planet, known and unknown, our nearest and dearest and everyone else to boot, so we can tune into the energy of those around us without even knowing it. Those of us living in highly populated places are particularly bombarded by the energies of others, especially the energy of other people’s fear because of the sheer proximity of large numbers of the population to one another. This can put you into a constant state of fight or flight response.

We often don’t even realise that we have tuned into someone else’s energy as we pass them by, whether they are known to us or not. You might come into eye contact, you may exchange a smile, or perhaps it feels more hostile – such as being on the receiving end of a glare. These are all experiences of the differing levels of energy exchange that can be a big part of the feelings that you are experiencing at any given moment.

Protecting Ourselves by Grounding and Centring

We need to learn to be energetically aware of how we feel and how other people make us feel, both intentionally and unintentionally. This is why learning to ground and centre ourselves daily is so vital. As we learn to tune into the quality of the energy that we are open to receiving, we can begin to choose the energy we allow into our energy field, protecting ourselves from what doesn’t work for us. It might help to think of it like the protective clothing we choose what to wear for skiing, swimming, walking in the rain or spending time on the beach; protecting ourselves from hailstorms and UV rays but instead with this practice, we are protecting ourselves from what’s going on around us.

Awareness and Discernment

We need to be aware of what is going on around us, both on a visible and invisible level. Human kindness versus human aggression, whether it is from those that we know and love or from random strangers. It’s so important to take responsibility for your own energy management. As we are aware of what we’re giving out, we also become more aware of what we are receiving.

We are often both informed and misinformed by all that is going on around us so that we need to use our own discernment as to what is true for us and what is not. Initially it can be trial and error but the more you tune into these qualities, the more fine-tuned you will become at practising discernment. A light-hearted example of this in action is that when I was first sent away to boarding school, I had to learn to acquire the taste for tea and coffee. It took perseverance but now I have various teas and coffees that I love and others that I don’t. I have fine-tuned my taste buds and I know and understand my likes and dislikes. It’s the same when you learn to tune into your own energy and that of those around you and notice the influence that has on you and your energy. It takes time and practice by noting what you notice, and in tuning into how situations, conversations and experiences make you feel, you eventually become the master of your own energy.

The more you learn to connect to your own energy the more understanding you will have when someone’s energy has knocked you off-kilter. When that happens it can be harder still to bring yourself back into balance, particularly if you are unaware of what it was that knocked you out of balance in the first place. Ultimately, we need to be prepared to do the inner work to fully embrace the outer experience. From time to time we need the help and support from other professionals to restore ourselves to a state of equilibrium, but we can create and maintain this for ourselves too.

The Benefits of Healing and Meditation

Healing and meditation are wonderful tools for knowing ourselves on a deeper level. We all react to the environment around us in positive or negative ways but many of us are unaware of what triggers us and possibly more importantly, why. As we learn to go deeper into how we feel in any given situation we become more aware of our personal energy, of what triggers us, other people’s energy, our learnt behaviours and our limiting beliefs. We then begin to understand what brings us joy and what makes us angry or upset. And we learn how to realign our energies when we’ve come out of alignment. Acknowledging how we feel in any given moment empowers us to be more in control of our general wellbeing and our emotional state.

I hope that what I have shared with you helps you to understand how other people’s energy can affect you in each and every moment and that it helps you to navigate through your daily life with grace and ease.

Please do get in touch if you have any questions or if you’d like my support. I’d love to assist you on your healing journey and guide you through empowering meditations as you connect ever more deeply into who you truly are. I love holding space for each and every one of you. Contact me on +61 4 2451 8884 or email hello@pippaneve.com.